“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”
I read the part in bold from this quote in a magazine. It was used in article about a woman who had fallen out of love with love; she had been cheated on for the second time and decided never to trust anyone ever again. For me the unfortunate thing about the article was that only part of the quote was used, if you read it in its full context what it actually saying is that “everything happens for a reason”. Perhaps the woman in question had made some bad choices, tried to make a relationship work that was never meant to be or perhaps he was just a cheating git but to blanket comment that she would never date again because all men are b*****ds is perhaps a bit generalist. Many of us have opened ourselves up to new relationships only to have our hearts squashed but to say you will never trust again is a bit extreme. It may turn us into cynics about future relationships but to close the door on it is, in my opinion, dangerous.
Trust is such an important thing in life! Whether it is trust in a partner, friend or colleague, without it doubt, fear and lack of confidence can creep in when we are ‘betrayed’. How do we get over it when someone ‘lets you down’? Eat tonnes of chocolate and sit around in our PJ’s watching sad rom coms or do we chalk it down to experience and move on? Just watch a baby when he is learning to walk, he lets go of the chair trusting that whoever has their hands outstretched will catch him if he falls, complete trust and faith. Is it because at that age we know no better or is it an inborn feeling of trust in the world. Blind faith or hope? Whatever it is, if the baby falls, he might cray but he will try again and again.
Think about the number of times things have happened and you question why me, why do I never get a break, why do things never go right? Have another read at what Ms Monroe said and just take ten minutes over a cuppa to think about it. Things do happen for a reason! Change happens for a reason! We just need to realise why, give it a big cuddle and say Adios and Hullorerr* to the new chapter.
*Hullorerr : Glaswegian for hello there